Build Mastery to Battle Depression

Yesterday morning I repaired my broken vacuum cleaner. I purchased it in May of last year & it had quit working in October.  Unfortunately I had lost the receipt during the craziness of last summer.  So even though it was still under warranty, I knew I would have trouble getting it replaced/fixed.  I asked my ex toContinue reading “Build Mastery to Battle Depression”

Dealing with Invalidation when Sadness Fits the Facts

My favorite DBT skills lesson is Emotion Regulation Worksheet 8A – Examples of Emotions That Fit the Facts. It’s one of the first worksheets I share with my new clients.  I tell them to go home and make flashcards, do whatever they need to do to memorize this page.  Because this is one that will begin toContinue reading “Dealing with Invalidation when Sadness Fits the Facts”

Are Judgments Keeping You Down?

Originally published December 15, 2018 on jamieschmidtlpc.com How do you motivate yourself to do better? For years whenever I felt like I was falling short on something, I would call myself as a “Stupid B****.” For many of us, that’s just how we’ve learned to talk to ourselves. Those who shaped us (parents, teachers, coaches,Continue reading “Are Judgments Keeping You Down?”

When Love Doesn’t Fit the Facts: Part II Opposite Action

Originally posted February 7, 2019 jamieschmidtlpc.com/blog So what do you do when love does not fit the facts? When you realize the love you feel towards a person or relationship is not actually in your best interest? Of course DBT has a skill for that as well! Opposite action is rooted in the awareness that thereContinue reading “When Love Doesn’t Fit the Facts: Part II Opposite Action”

When Love Doesn’t Fit the Facts: Part I

Originally posted February 5, 2019 on http://www.jamieschmidtlpc.com/blogI started doing some website maintenance today & realized I wrote this exactly a year ago. Whoo life sure is cyclical! February is upon us. With Valentine’s Day just a little more than a week a way, I thought I would do a short series of posts about loveContinue reading “When Love Doesn’t Fit the Facts: Part I”

Letting Go of Toxic Love Schemas

A common byproduct of growing up in a toxic environment, is that you approach life with all these assumptions about people and relationships that are just flat out wrong.  As children we are constantly taking in data from our lives and using it to build schemas.  These schemas are basically blueprints – step by step instructionsContinue reading “Letting Go of Toxic Love Schemas”

PTSD 101: Fight, Flight & Freeze – Surviving a Freeze

I had a full-blown PTSD Freeze moment yesterday.   I’ll be honest, it caught me off guard.  For the past month, I have not experienced any of the physical effects of my C-PTSD.  A change I contribute that to reaching the apex of my trauma work mid-December.  Physically I’ve felt the difference. I am no longer fighting night terrors orContinue reading “PTSD 101: Fight, Flight & Freeze – Surviving a Freeze”