A Highly Sensitive Person's Guide to Love & Dating

Originally posted on Jamieschmidtlpc.com/blog February 19, 2019. Ah, I don’t know how I missed this one on my V-day series this year!!! So here it is a week late. Still totally valid 😊 As an empath and emotionally sensitive individual, I thought I would share some reflections on love 💗 and romantic relationships in honorContinue reading “A Highly Sensitive Person's Guide to Love & Dating”

Examples of Emotions that Fit the Facts Infograph

I’ve referenced this checklist of when Emotions Fit the Facts in 3 or 4 of my recent posts. Each time I end up pulling up a screenshot of a page out of the book to look at. Thought I’d make a pretty one to share 😊 #dbt #dialecticalbehaviortherapy #emotion #emotionregulation #emotionalregulation #personality #bpd #bpdawareness #npdContinue reading “Examples of Emotions that Fit the Facts Infograph”

DBT Emotion Regulation: Using Opposite Action for Anxiety

I started a new side gig this weekend with an event company (because most of us need a couple of hustles to pay the bills, ya know what I mean?) I’ve got a bit of a background in bar 🍺 and restaurant management. When I’m in the hospitality zone, there are many aspects of thisContinue reading “DBT Emotion Regulation: Using Opposite Action for Anxiety”

Dealing with Invalidation when Sadness Fits the Facts

My favorite DBT skills lesson is Emotion Regulation Worksheet 8A – Examples of Emotions That Fit the Facts. It’s one of the first worksheets I share with my new clients.  I tell them to go home and make flashcards, do whatever they need to do to memorize this page.  Because this is one that will begin toContinue reading “Dealing with Invalidation when Sadness Fits the Facts”

Are Judgments Keeping You Down?

Originally published December 15, 2018 on jamieschmidtlpc.com How do you motivate yourself to do better? For years whenever I felt like I was falling short on something, I would call myself as a “Stupid B****.” For many of us, that’s just how we’ve learned to talk to ourselves. Those who shaped us (parents, teachers, coaches,Continue reading “Are Judgments Keeping You Down?”

When Touch is Scary after Trauma

So I am not a touchy-feely person.   Another wonderful side effect of being a trauma survivor.  My energy is sacred to me & my body is my vessel for that energy.  Since it has a history of being violated, I’m extra protective of it.  I avoid big crowds where I cannot control people bumping into me.  I’m not aContinue reading “When Touch is Scary after Trauma”

When Love Doesn't Fit the Facts: Part II Opposite Action

Originally posted February 7, 2019 jamieschmidtlpc.com/blog So what do you do when love does not fit the facts? When you realize the love you feel towards a person or relationship is not actually in your best interest? Of course DBT has a skill for that as well! Opposite action is rooted in the awareness that thereContinue reading “When Love Doesn't Fit the Facts: Part II Opposite Action”

When Love Doesn't Fit the Facts: Part I

Originally posted February 5, 2019 on http://www.jamieschmidtlpc.com/blogI started doing some website maintenance today & realized I wrote this exactly a year ago. Whoo life sure is cyclical! February is upon us. With Valentine’s Day just a little more than a week a way, I thought I would do a short series of posts about loveContinue reading “When Love Doesn't Fit the Facts: Part I”

Letting Go of Toxic Love Schemas

A common byproduct of growing up in a toxic environment, is that you approach life with all these assumptions about people and relationships that are just flat out wrong.  As children we are constantly taking in data from our lives and using it to build schemas.  These schemas are basically blueprints – step by step instructionsContinue reading “Letting Go of Toxic Love Schemas”

Speak your Truth! (& clear your throat chakra)

One of my goals for the year is to work on opening my throat chakra. For those of you who don’t speak metaphysics, this is really just a whoo-whoo way of saying – I’m working on the skill of speaking my truth more freely. I like to think my verbal communication skills are on point.Continue reading “Speak your Truth! (& clear your throat chakra)”